Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Marriage Sex

From this NYTimes article on an interesting experiment- married couples doing it every single night for 101/365 days in a row:

"According to a 2004 study, “American Sexual Behavior,” by the National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago, married couples have intercourse about 66 times a year. But that number is skewed by young marrieds, as young as 18, who couple, on average, 84 times a year."

MG- I'm never getting married. That's like one day in six, and I bet that's like 75% during ovulation, so 3/4 of the time you're gettin nothing- boooo! Although 1/6 is way the hell better than what I'm averaging- damn it...

“There’s a strong relationship between rating your marriage as happy and frequency of intercourse,” said Tom W. Smith, who conducted the “American Sexual Behavior” study. “What we can’t tell you is what the causal relationship is between the two. We don’t know whether people who are happy in their marriage have sex more, or whether people who have sex more become happy in their marriages, or a combination of those two.”

've been saying this for years. If there something wrong with the sex life, there's something much deeper wrong with the relationship.

Shoshana Bulow, a psychotherapist and certified sex therapist in Manhattan, pointed out that sex is a lot more complicated than frequency. “There’s all sorts of reasons people lose interest in sex with their partner — disappointments, life cycles, financial issues,” she said. “Just having it isn’t going to resolve those.”

h I beg to disagree Miss Burlow. It helps reduce stress for one, and I don't know about ya'll but I am certainly more clear headed after getting laid. This allows a person to re-evaluate all those life stressors, specifically, maybe it'll help you to take yourself a little less seriously...


Liz said...

you know I have to disagree with your disagreement with miss burlow because I totally agree with her.

Jesse said...

Ok ok, so yeah, obviously it can't solve all problems. But I can definitely say that stupid pointless nit-picking fights can be eliminated by this. And I do still think that it can really help in general with life's stresses. Not to mention that the intense connection it creates with one's mate help the pair to deal with all that stuff as well...